A thought on human behaviour
Posted: Fri Nov 25, 2011 8:32 pm
Last two weeks i was busy with a murder trial.
Basically we managed to save one client from prison and the other one got 5 years (with good behavior he will be out in 3 years and 4 months). This was a bit different for me because i practice company law, not criminal. However it was not my first case in that area. But it got me thinking. Basic premise behind our defense was that there was no intention, if there was no intention that means there was no conspiracy to commit a criminal act and therefore the other client didn't get convicted and the one who committed the act got the minimum sentence (forget about movies where a lawyer gets a client off the hook even thou there were allot of witnesses, real life is different). But back to the subject, intention.
In every aspect of our life our actions are dictated by some intention that is in turn dictated by our needs. So when we put it like that, and indeed i have been putting it like that for many years now, human behavior basically becomes pretty understandable. Why do two party girls kiss each other in a night club? They need attention from the crowd. Why does an unskillful guy boast in front of a girl? He wants her to like him. Why to people behave aggressively? Because they are powerless to resolve the current problem/issue/situation in another fashion. To put it simply they act like that for x y reason and these categories of people are but a few examples. Why do they act like that and not in another way? Their social intelligence is the limiting factor in that equation, they simply don't know a different way.
However, denial is what intrigues me the most. People can be pretty successful in creating a false image of themselves, and this is something that knows no religion or cultural boundaries, it is something in common for all human beings. An insecure person that is not happy with his life will always find some way to create a superficial image of himself as someone who is indeed a good, normal and capable person, but who is kept down by others. So they find interests that don't have application in real life to serve as an ego boost and a mean to tell that you can do something you actually can't. The basic fear of looking in the eyes of truth will make that person actually more miserable. That is why they get easily offended, threatened and start to rage instantly all the while picturing the one who is telling them the error of their ways in a certain way that they may or may not like, as the source of all evil. It is because those people are telling them the truth they refuse to see, the truth that is shattering the image they built. The way they tell it is irrelevant.
So the point is, why not accept yourself for who you are, because people instinctively know when someone is in denial. Pretending that you are the one who is god given but constantly crying and blaming others for your problems makes you aggressive and sad even thou you think you are not. If you are bad with women accept that and start working on that. If you are insecure accept it and start working on it. Nothing can change a nature of a man, we can only strive to improve it. That is why i think there are allot of truly sad people out there...
What do you think?
Basically we managed to save one client from prison and the other one got 5 years (with good behavior he will be out in 3 years and 4 months). This was a bit different for me because i practice company law, not criminal. However it was not my first case in that area. But it got me thinking. Basic premise behind our defense was that there was no intention, if there was no intention that means there was no conspiracy to commit a criminal act and therefore the other client didn't get convicted and the one who committed the act got the minimum sentence (forget about movies where a lawyer gets a client off the hook even thou there were allot of witnesses, real life is different). But back to the subject, intention.
In every aspect of our life our actions are dictated by some intention that is in turn dictated by our needs. So when we put it like that, and indeed i have been putting it like that for many years now, human behavior basically becomes pretty understandable. Why do two party girls kiss each other in a night club? They need attention from the crowd. Why does an unskillful guy boast in front of a girl? He wants her to like him. Why to people behave aggressively? Because they are powerless to resolve the current problem/issue/situation in another fashion. To put it simply they act like that for x y reason and these categories of people are but a few examples. Why do they act like that and not in another way? Their social intelligence is the limiting factor in that equation, they simply don't know a different way.
However, denial is what intrigues me the most. People can be pretty successful in creating a false image of themselves, and this is something that knows no religion or cultural boundaries, it is something in common for all human beings. An insecure person that is not happy with his life will always find some way to create a superficial image of himself as someone who is indeed a good, normal and capable person, but who is kept down by others. So they find interests that don't have application in real life to serve as an ego boost and a mean to tell that you can do something you actually can't. The basic fear of looking in the eyes of truth will make that person actually more miserable. That is why they get easily offended, threatened and start to rage instantly all the while picturing the one who is telling them the error of their ways in a certain way that they may or may not like, as the source of all evil. It is because those people are telling them the truth they refuse to see, the truth that is shattering the image they built. The way they tell it is irrelevant.
So the point is, why not accept yourself for who you are, because people instinctively know when someone is in denial. Pretending that you are the one who is god given but constantly crying and blaming others for your problems makes you aggressive and sad even thou you think you are not. If you are bad with women accept that and start working on that. If you are insecure accept it and start working on it. Nothing can change a nature of a man, we can only strive to improve it. That is why i think there are allot of truly sad people out there...
What do you think?