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Okay, its like this.......

I have a good freind who is now going out with another "freind", both of whom I have know a long time. The second freind just got out of a somewhat intimate relationship with another person. The fact that, after only going out a few weeks, thay show signs of both love :? and simply still being freinds. :?: Since the second freind got out of this relationship, what went on in that relationship, which I am forbidden to speak of, has raised concerns in me over this second freinds standing on this relationship.

I have been going through this constantly for the past few days and it is driving me crazy. I can't stand the fact the second freind did what she did (she is fairly young) and yet is going into another relationship, while I simply don't understand what they see in each other. Does anyone in here have any form of advice for me to deal witha situation like this? It is appreciated. Thank you.

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I say stand clear of it and do not get involved.
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Clavin12 wrote:I say stand clear of it and do not get involved.
QFT.
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When you take advice from your mother it's a show of respect. Partly because she has experiance in life and partly because she is training you to lead your life. If you aren't this persons mother or couselor then your advice is likely to fall on deaf ears, cause a rift in your relationship with them or possibly worse. It will not be worth it to you even if the advice is well received. Leave the advice giving to parents and others who get paid to do it. You aren't Dr. Phil, so watch and learn from them. The best thing for you to do is just be there for your friends whether they make a mistake or not. You're gonna want to make a mistake down the line and not have friends turn their backs on you also.
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VSMIT wrote:
Clavin12 wrote:I say stand clear of it and do not get involved.
QFT.
I really don't see how quantum field theory comes into this.

In all seriousness, Clavin is absolutely correct.
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I always found people have to learn things the hard way.

When they make the most logical and reasonable decision, there's usually not enough pain involved to really imprint on the person's psyche and be a life lesson.

Doubly, you say they are both young? So yes, let him and her run the ball, get pounded, and hopefully next time they'll know better.

Just hope and pray she doesn't get a cute little 18 year anchor from her lesson. :shock:
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